Thanks!

I just had a fight with a friend like 40 mins ago.
its jus a quarrel we had about somthing reli small
but i wasnt reli in the mood to take crap from anyone
so i jus snapped n shoved him off..
its reli not wat i would do but i was pissed..
so i gav it a thought and after 20 mins,
i apologised and we made up :0
haha.. thx bro for forgiving me!

RACIST? DON BE!!!!

Our country has been rich in culture ever since British brought Chinese and Indians down to Malaya which is now known as Malaysia. Since then, all races have been fighting for rights and equality throughout these years. Fortunately, after all the terms that had been agreed upon, now, our country is a peaceful and harmony country to live in.

It is undeniable that some of us are still racist till these days and of course we do not say it out loud. When I was in secondary school, it can be said that I was one of those who have multi-racial friends. My school is actually monopolise by most Chinese followed by Indians then Malays. But I do not stereotyped with only one race like most people do. But there is one thing that I just couldn't stand hearing someone saying ' Indians' hair are smelly or why are you not mixing with the Chinese, you don't have Chinese friends is it?' (Individual racism)

I am just so shock to hear that. How can they say that Indians' hair are smelly? That is just so rude! Again and again I have to explain that Indians' hair are NOT naturally smelly, they just put some kind of oil on their hair which they must do it everyday. I don't have problems with them with their hair or skin colour or anything else. But is their personalities that I'm interested at. Most of them are just ridiculously funny and really helpful. Furthermore, I mix with Indians and Malays, it doesn't mean I do not have Chinese friends or Chinese friends do not want to make friends with me, I have a whole lot of friends to choose from.


It is unfortunately for people to actually stereotyped and only make friends with one race. They should mix around more with other races because we can learn their culture differences and of course the best, their languages!

Poithe vange (goodbye in tamil)

Yours sincerely,
Chan Kah Mun

Exam stress!

Have any of you the thing called "exam stress" ?! Like OBVIOUSLY right :)

But have any of you thought that, all this stress in merely in our minds and ONLY if we think about more, we tend to feel the pressure more?! I know! "WHO would ever think of calm-ing themselves down especially during exams!!

Here are few tips. I use them myself. Sharing is caring =) So HERE...
i) Spend time with people who give you POSITIVE effect.. You will receive the positive aura!
ii) Avoid thinking " Everyone seems cool.. Why am I struggling? =( " THINK POSITIVE!!! you ARE ready for the exams!!
iii) Take a quiet walk by yourself in the evening(one day before your exams ONCE you have studied through all your necessary topics)
iv) Pray Pray Pray !!!! NOT just when your exams are close, but everyday, BELIEVE in God! because when you believe, HE WILL help you! Its all in the faith towards Him.
v) DO NOT discuss the paper after your done because IN CASE your friend has a different answer, you might doubt yourself and then again your putting yourself in that deep hole which you've digged.

NOW..follow these 4 steps and trust me you will be feeling good BEFORE & AFTER every exam papers you sit for.

All the best for your FINALS NOW!!! =)=)

Amrit Kaur

Dilemma

so here i was checking my email
when i ran into an email sent by my mom! shocked me to max!
the email was about my dad's email to my cousin sister who is currently staying in england
she was kinda close to me when i was young
and now she got married and gave birth to a child in england
i heard from my mom that she is suffering from postpartum depression
and i was stunned as she is the brightest and cheerful woman i have ever met
always with a smile, she is also the smartest woman i have ever known, with 3 degrees and 2 masters!
i have never expected that she would suffer depression.
so here is the dilemma
my mom sent me this email because she is asked about me in the email.
and wanted me to know that she is available if i have any questions about college life or anything at all
so my mom had forced me to email her..
so should i email her?
what should i say?

Ian @@

R.I.P

Few days ago, I was at the hospital seeing my grandfather's heartbeat rate slowly decreasing..
He was already in the unconscious state 2 days before this happened.
He is 84 this year, and he went for a risky operation to take out a tumor which is believed to have caused cancer.
Making the decision on whether he should have gone for the operation is a very tough decision..

Choice 1 : Undergo the operation and take a very high risk..
Choice 2 : Wait approximately 2 years for the tumor to expand and cause him to suffer everyday after some time. (Well, least we had 2 more years with him)

Whatever it is, it was choice 1 that was decided.
And, apparently, choice 1 was too risky...
Therefore, he passed away..

I attended the funeral which only ended this morning..
*barely had enough time to study for PR*
These few days, I see alot of people crying and mourning over his death..
My grandfather is a great man, he helped alot of people in the past and it has paid off..
ALOT, Yes, ALOT of his old friends, far distance relatives came for the ceremony just to pay their last respect to him.

Everyone in the family, teared over his death, and the only one who did not cry was ...
Me...
Maybe I am just a bad boy lol... Nah..
It's just the way I think is a little different from what others think at that moment..

I would want him to go.. I wouldn't wanna see him suffer for the next few years, crying out in pain, living a miserable life just for the sake of living.
I feel he is much happier now in his new "world"..
85 years of age is hard to reach, and reaching there is something to be proud of..
Lastly, I don't want him to see us all sad over his death..
I am sure he would want us to be happy always.

So..
Rest In Peace Grandfather.
May u live happier with ur new "life"

Education is Important

" If you don't know where you are going, you'll end up someplace else "--Yogi Berra

In life you need to know your purpose of where you are heading to. Parents will not forever hold your hands in life. At one point in life, you would be living in this nasty world all by yourself and going through all those painful and hard times by yourself. Therefore NOW you should atleast know your main priority is only education. Without education, you are nothing. Study hard guys! All the best in your life =)

Amrit Kaur

Friendship =)

' A friend is the one who knows all about you, and still likes you' -- Fr. Jerome Cummings

This is like so true! Those who have seen you in your best suit and also in your worst suit AND are still there holding your hands and laughing this journey through together are the one's whom you could be assured to be there walking every mountain and crossing every sea with you even if it sounds ridiculous!

It's good to have friends like these. I do I know=) (Not one but 3!!)

Amrit Kaur

Friends or Foe?

A friend of mine have been complaining about a mutual friend's behaviour...
and it got serious one day..
he almost lost his patience and wanted to just punch her to shut her up..
somehow he managed to control his temper and just ignored her..
i'm not really sure about what happened later and if they still hang out
but what i wanna say is that sometimes friends can change from ally to foe..
so just open your eyes and evaluate the situation before you manage to get your ass kicked..

just today, a friend of mine asked for my help..
and i was like "F*** U!"
why would i want to help him? when he showed me his temper to me for asking "are you ok?"
i've been helping him too much and he starts to take me for granted..
he needs to realize that i'm not a servant
so i rejected a simple request, that he asked thro the phone..
altho he did not scolded me or anything but he paused..
and said "i'm trying not to F U now.."
so i immediately stop talking n just put down the phone..
later another friend calls and says "hey! did ___ called u?"
i said "yes" and he said "i dun like him"
shocking?! change your attitude before you get hated!

Ian, damn pissed..

communication is not as easy as it seems...

There are actually two ways to communicate which is verbal and non-verbal. What I am I going to talk about today is eye communication which is one of the non-verbal communication.

Well, the messages communicated by the eyes diverge depending on the direction, duration and quality of the eye behaviour. For example, the duration that we can look into one’s eye must not exceed 2.95 seconds. If we exceed the duration, we are considered rude or showing high interest or even hostility. However, for some other culture like the Japanese culture, they must not have eye contact with someone who is more superior or elder. Moreover, when eye contact falls short of 1.18 seconds, some cultures may think the person is uninterested, timid or preoccupied.

But what if we just cannot focus on the speaker even though we are actually listening to them? Well, I do actually face this kind of problem. I just could not keep eye contact with the speaker for long. There is people actually who come up to me and tell me whether I am still listening to them or did I lose interest in their conversation. I mean, I know that making eye contact is vital but it is not as easy as you think. Imagine yourself making eye contact with someone who talks for at least 10 minutes talking about his or her problem and they actually expect you to give eye contact and keep track on their conversation for that 10 minutes. It’s tough, really tough for me. I mean I can only listen to them how long they want me to but the eye contact, that’s impossible.

So, for those out there who actually think that having eye contact is easy, good for you but for me, I have to brush up in my non-verbal communication. Because without a perfect eye contact, people will actually think that I do not respect them and those respect will not return if I continue to behave in that circumstances.

Yours truly,
Chan Kah Mun

Hey, how are you? "I'm fine" Hey, What are you doing? "Nothing"

How do you feel when someone you're talking to answers your questions with 2 words or less?
Do you feel like not going on with the conversation or rather frustrated?
Alot of people do that, sometimes, say... when they're feeling sad/depressed/emotional..
I do admit I do that sometimes it's not even funny eh? lol
After some personal problems that happened to me, I started to avoid doing that.
Well, It isn't a healthy thing to do actually

If you do that, you're not giving any cue to the other party to reply you.
Sometimes, you will just cause people to be somehow speechless..
Also, that's not very friendly anyway..

Conversations between people is very crucial in Life.
You can learn ALOT from others, even more from what we learn from highschool/college/university.

People do feel happier talking to a person if they enhance the conversation.
Laughs/smiles/giggles are another sign of you making the conversation interesting!

Good luck in Life guys.!


-Ga Weng-

Interpersonal "love" relationships

I have had many different relationship with different guys in my life. Some were just friends, some made a big impact in my life and some were just the hi bye friends. Ill talk about the ones who made an impact in my life. I wouldnt call them "friends" because I did not take them that way. The "so called" LOVE relationships is what I mean.

Eros love? I have never experienced having that kind of guy in my life.

Ludic love? Oh YEAH!! Not one but 2 !! They both never actually wanted me NOW(as in 2 years back) I know! I mean it's not like I became less interesting or some sort. But the fact was that the relationship was going on too LONG and they needed more to explore on so they cheated me. And FORTUNATELY I found out=) Today i think back of the past and Im very very thankful they actually did that to me. Because who would think whats right and wrong? Who is the right and wrong person in your life to walk down the journey together at the age of 18??!!! Those would all be puppy love! Some relationships do last I agree but that is like 10% out of the rest?

Storge love? Yeah:) Before me and my male best friend actually became real close, we were ALMOST in the stage of getting together till we sat and spoke and realised between us two nothing CAN actually happen. He feels comfortable talking to me and telling me his problems. So do I. But the attraction in seeing him as a life partner is just not there. Our bond as best friends can just NOT change. NEVER.

Pragma lover? =)=) The current relationship I am in now I would say. Everthing is good on the basis of family and background. I wouldnt say it is entirely pragma. But some combination of manic lover on his side does exist. No jealousy but at times when I speak to much to one party, he would be ABIT upset. So that would mean manic right?!( Who cares! atleast he cares that means!=) )

Agapic lover? hahaha...NAHHH.. me trying to be like Mahathma Ghandhi or even Mother Teressa..nope!


Amrit Kaur

What is friendship?

what does a real friendship actually means?
as u guys know, i lost a friend recently.. and i had been reminiscing about him alot..
so i wondered what does a real friendship has to have?
- the moments that we cherish 4ever?
- the bond we have?
- the sweet talk we do?
- the jokes we share?
- the similar thoughts we share?
- the attributes we like about each other?
- the things we share?
this were some of the things i did not get to share with him..
i only got to know him for 2 yrs.. and we weren't as close as we shud have been..
and i deeply regret not knowin him any better..
i have been hanging out alot with my friends these days.
and i hope i do not have to regret again..

Ian :(

No Gunnysack-ers please..

Oh em gee~
Please guys,
if you were not satisfied/happy with something
kindly voice it out
Don't ever keep it to yourself
and end up behaving like a gunnysack
-hide everything( griefs and disappointments) and later on, explode like a C4

I was once caught in this conflict
where 2 of my friends were arguing and
(Let's name my friend, D)
D was a very passive person and he don't really talk much
His patience was freaking high and he accepted every criticism
and showed nothing on his face.

We always thought that he was all fine with it
until one day, when Z(another friend) provoked him with one of his embarrassed moments
D warned him not to continue yet Z was being stupid to tease him even more
D got frustrated and bombed like a C4
All of us got shocked and these were our expressions >>


<< When he banged the table and started giving us the fierce "Look"




<< When he started scolding all of us >.<


Then later on, D just stormed off..leaving us in gaze and shocked
A day of not talking, he came to us and apologized
Well, we did forgave him for sure
He's a nice guy, except for the moment where he exploded>.<

So, in conclusion
Being a gunnysack-er is good at times,but not always
It may get you insane one day
and exploded for who knows why>.<

Love,
Yin Jun

Friendships that I cherished till the end

I had this bunch of friends,
True friends
whom I did not meet in the beginning of my college life,
but in the last semester of mine.
Some of them are in their third semester too
and there's a couple of them who are in their first semester.

To be frank,
I did not know how suddenly I got so close with them
It just happened in a glimpse of time
All of a sudden, from a stranger relationship to close friends
Let's take it as a "Miracle okay?

Within these weeks time,
I felt very comfortable with them and they are always there for me
We did crazy stuffs together
Laugh together
Chill together
Listening to each other's stories and problems
Solving problems together
I would classified this friendship under the category of Friendship of Reciprocity
To those who does not familiarize with this term,
You're so dead~
Midterms is just right around the corner XD

Coming back from red-herring,
They belong to those who are loyal, self-sacrifice and generous.
I remember self disclosing to this guy,
who my secrets are very safe with him
He talked to me for quite sometime
and I felt totally relieved after expressing my thoughts
He ain't that bias maybe because he's facing what I am facing as well
It's easy for both of us to be empathy towards each other
and I'm grateful for his patience and understanding towards me.

This friendship of mine, will I always cherish as :

They were there for me when I felt down
They were there for me when I fell
They were there for me when I felt weak
They were there for me when I'm going insane
They were there for me when I need a person to talk to
They were there for me when I got all stressed out and sick

and lastly,
They were there for me just to make me smile and laugh again.

What else can I wished for?

To that particular guy, who knew almost 95% of my secrets,
thanks and I will only reveal the another 5% of my secret when I got it clarified.

" Friends know the songs in my heart and sing them to me when my memory fails."

Sincerely,
Yin Jun

Conflict conflict conflict!! :S

Conflict is the ONE thing that happens in everyones life. Even if you don't like it, you have to bear with it because you have no control over it. Maybe YOU might have the control not to create a conflict in any situation but the other person or situation might have no control over it.
I HATE conflicts! Especially when it's a relational conflict. Despite me HATING it, i think it happens MORE than I can ever imagine. Maybe that's why!

Relational conflict starts small. It's almost like buring your old newspapers! It's starts small and when you disturb it more n more, the fire just keeps increasing and before you know it, your papers have became ashes now!

Im speaking about the parents-child conflict. Although it IS true when they say, we are only saying it for your own good or it's because we love and care about you, I honestly just don't get it! I mean ok to a certain extend they control us. But until WHEN? Morover it's not like we go against them by smoking or drinking and parting late nights everyday or even taking drugs! When we do none of that, arn't we suppose to be the good obedient kids whom you can trust?!

Yes I AGREE they care about us! and yes I agree, if anything were to happen, family are the ONLY people you can fall back upon. BUT, all we are asking is just a little amount of freedom arn't we? Im sure there are many out there who goes through this parental controlling situation. When the situation goes out of hand and uncontrollable for the kids, temper starts to rise and conflict happens.

Why can't it just be a win-win situation where I have my freedom but I use it wisely. Isn't that a good win-win?! Why does it always have to be a LOOSE-WIN???!!!! If your under 20 years and your parents control you, its reasonable. Your still a kid! FINE! BUT what if your 21 and above! WORST if your 25 and you have to be back home before dinner at 8.30pm? I mean like, where is the logic to THAT?!!

Because of all this minor stuff, conflicts happen! And have any of us ever wondered WHY do people commit suicide? When all these minor problems, not only relational but even other minor stuff that they have no control on, gets worst day by day, year after year, these people go under a severe depression and then it take them only one minute to commit suicide. Taking your life away is not something easy to do. Try cutting your wrist when your sad! You won't be able to do it. It's takes major problems in life for someone to have the courage to do that. And these major problems, starts with the minor ones.

Stop creating problems for each and other! It's the one and only thing you could do! Be nice! =)

Amrit Kaur

Family is actually one of the interpersonal relationship types. Believe it or not, families are the one that will be with you no matter what. They will always support you no matter what you have done. Even you had done something so wrong that you thought that your family will not want you. Fortunately, most families will always be a shoulder for you to cry on, to support you or to pick you up when you fall, be your listener and even your personal counsellor. Isn’t that great?

Well, some of you might not agree with me because you might say that they are your barriers to your freedom. They wouldn’t let you do this or that. But they are doing this for your own good. You might hear that pretty often but it is really true. Actually, when your parents do not really care about you, they don’t care where you’re going, what you’re doing, who are you going out with, and even what time you’re coming back home. Family or parent might be a control freak, but whose parents aren’t.

Besides, families are our best friends since birth. They know you so well from top to bottom, a to z. They may not tell you or they may not know how to express their feelings towards you but there is one thing I am really sure of which is they will always love and accept you for who you are. Therefore, appreciate your parents for whatever they had done for you even they might not do it in your way but the things they had done for you will always turn out to be the best for you. So cheers, from now on, treat your parent right even if they are a little nasty sometimes.


Yours truly,
Chan Kah Mun

Family

Family is actually one of the interpersonal relationship types. Believe it or not, families are the one that will be with you no matter what. They will always support you no matter what you have done. Even you had done something so wrong that you thought that your family will not want you. Fortunately, most families will always be a shoulder for you to cry on, to support you or to pick you up when you fall, be your listener and even your personal counsellor. Isn’t that great?

Well, some of you might not agree with me because you might say that they are your barriers to your freedom. They wouldn’t let you do this or that. But they are doing this for your own good. You might hear that pretty often but it is really true. Actually, when your parents do not really care about you, they don’t care where you’re going, what you’re doing, who are you going out with, and even what time you’re coming back home. Family or parent might be a control freak, but whose parents aren’t.

Besides, families are our best friends since birth. They know you so well from top to bottom, a to z. They may not tell you or they may not know how to express their feelings towards you but there is one thing I am really sure of which is they will always love and accept you for who you are. Therefore, appreciate your parents for whatever they had done for you even they might not do it in your way but the things they had done for you will always turn out to be the best for you. So cheers, from now on, treat your parent right even if they are a little nasty sometimes.


Yours truly,
Chan Kah Mun

True Friendship

Friendship is a word that has a preety DEEP meaning. A friend can be just about a random person you meet, a person in the same class as you are, same college as you are, or the BEST FRIEND that you have.

Not all this kind of friends are to be trusted entirely. I sometimes wonder but never questioned that why do certain people have like 6-7 BEST friends? I mean are all those 6-7 people trustworthy? Anyways im not questioning. Just curious :)

I have 1 BEST friends to whom I can share ANYTHING! Its a friendship of reciprocity. A very balanced friendship where we understand each other entirely, touchwood we've been friends for 8 years now and we have never fought! TOUCHWOOD! We speak in all sorts of ways that this sometimes makes our other friends wonder if we are fighting or are we just communicating? The friendship between me n her is so strong that ONCE! just once!, another friend of MINE actually tried her best polluting my mind and saying stuff like "Do you know what she did that day?" and stuff like that. I never believed ofcourse! Because like I said, we shared EVERYTHING! All I told this OTHER girl is, "look! If you've got nothing nice to say, then say nothing at all!" YES it's a dalai lama line. BUT it's true. Why would you speak something BAD about someone when that someone did no harm to you! Weird people! sigh!

Anyways, yeah! =)

Amrit Kaur

An Early Shock!

I got up at 12 today..
and i was given one of the biggest shock of my life..
a dear friend of mine has passed away..
the news hit me with a wave bullets..
the emptiness and sadness that my heart felt can't be explained..
he was always bright and would put a smile on me anytime..
our group gathering would never be the same without him..
right now.. all i can say about me is that i serious stunned..
i can't believe that a brother would leave my life so early..
our big family lost a brother and we are all very sad..
we'll definitely miss him dearly..
Rest Well, Jcen Wey!

Ian :`(

Disconfirmation Rox =3

You guys must be wondering why I supported disconfirmation..
Let me clarify the title of the post.

Why do I support disconfirmation?

There are reasons for me to support my own point of view. Firstly, I knew pretty well about my own communication style. I am an aggressive communicator. I am brutally honest and if you were to tell me things that I strongly disagree or things that provoked me, I will definitely fire you back with mean words.In this context, I did not mean by firing vulgar words straight on your face. I would simply get things straight, and I don't care if my words would kill or not as long as I get you straight to the point and that's it. So, I guess it's better to disconfirm rather than creating havocs.

Secondly, if someone disclose their problems to me, I would loved to make decision for him/her. I don't really like to be in a situation where it required me to watch my friends got stuck in between a yes-no event. That situation really annoyed me ALOT. What will I do? Of course I would advise my friends and strongly influence them to take actions with logical reasoning and not solely based on personal opinions nor assumptions which is not credible at all.

Thirdly, it is common for me to participate in a win-lose situations for most of the time. I am willing to debate with any of my friends just to prove that I am in the winning side. In this area, I did not particularly be too forceful towards my friends because it's simply hurtful. I would use nice words to make them realized that what I'm saying is facts and I have evidences to prove that I am at the right party.

The most important thing is, even thought I am stuck in a "debate" or better known as an argument,with a friend of mine, I will ALWAYS stick to the truth despite knowing that the truth is always ugly and mean. Come to think about it, who would love to make things worst (like adding spices into the story) when it comes to an argument and when everything is as clear as crystal, you're so doomed ? It's not wrong admiting that I am aggressive at communications when this is the way I am.

Yours Truly,
Yin Jun

Non-Verbal Communications=D

We all know that while we communicate,
there is always the presence of verbal as well as nonverbal communication

So, what is the function of nonverbal communication?
I will not follow what the text book says..
cause it is kinda boring><
Let me interpret the 3 most important function of nonverbal communication based on my point of view =D

The functions are :

a. To form and manage our impressions

Yea yea..like words, our nonverbal communication says it all
It is just like the analogy of "Actions Speak Louder Than Words"
Ahem..Let me give you an example :
I'm so sorry to all the guys here..I'll be gender bias for a moment =D

* You happened to see a cute and hawt dude smiling and waving to you *
What will your impression towards him be?

" Oh em gee...He's hawt and polite!!"
-Or-

"What a bastard, you think your smile works on me?"

*You happened to stare at a guy and too bad,he noticed you staring at him..a moment later, he showed you his middle finger.*

How will you judge him?

"What a sick bastard" Or " Oh my god..he's hawt"


b. To form and define relationship

Nonverbal communication in a relationship rocks to the max =D
In a relationship, nonverbal communications exist in various ways
For instance, holding hands, staring at each other, hugging, kissing, cuddling ectera
and to be honest,
I can just sit down and stare at the guy I loved for hours LoL
Apart from that, these communication style defines how the level of closeness between you and your partner or friends.
You will never let a stranger touch you, ay?
Normal friends will never touch you like your partner did right?=D

c. Emotional Expression

I'm sure that some of your friends could guess your mood based on your facial expression
Theoretically,
whenever we are sad or happy or whatever, our faces write it all-_-
For instance, when you are sad
You will never go around smiling like a fool
and when you are happy,
you will never go around showing your sad face.
For me,
If I am happy, I will be energetic
and when I'm in deep thoughts,
I'll give you the blur-est expression while talking to you
and when I am angry,
Har har har..
I'll be extremely quiet and
you better leave me alone
cause I'll be giving you the deadly stare and if you provoked me more
I'm gonna shoot you from head to toe =D

That's the 3 most important function of nonverbal communication,based on Yin Jun's text book =P

That's all for now~

Sincerely,
Yin Jun

love love LOVE....

Do you believe in love in first sight? Well, this is very subjective. And as for me, i used to believe it. But when I am experiencing it, I wish i had never met him at all. I mean what was I thinking, loving a guy who i barely know and just fall for him just because he looks so handsome. How foolish I was?

Let's name him 'Ass' shall we? Ass and I met through a mutual friend. At that time it was during school holidays. My friends and I were going for ice skating at Sunway Pyramid and that was the very first time that I met him. For the first time I look at him, I fall for him, I never actually thought i could fall for a guy on the first sight. I was totally all over him. i couldn't take my eyes off him. Not even for a second.

Among all my friends, Ass and I are the only one who know how to skate. So both of us held our hands together and skate. At that moment, I was all over the moon. It was the very first time that i actually hold a guy's hand. I was actually smiling like a fool throughtout the day.

After months knowing him and getting closer to him, our relationship was getting stronger. We were going out almost every weekend and I finally get to know the bad side of him but I ignore it. I mean come on, love is blind right? All I could see is the bright side of him only. Even my friends told me not to mix too much with him. But i ignore them although I know they were right.

One day, I was hanging out with my classmate and suddenly I saw 'Ass' with other girl and I notice that they are actually an item. What the HELL! After all the hint, after all the flowery words, after all the 'I love you', and after all the bullshit that I had gotten from him. I am just so dumb. I got fooled.

I got a little nuts on that day. Not knowing how to react to it. Until I know I couldn't take it anymore, tears roll down my cheeks for hours and even for days. I hate him so much!

From that day onwards, I will never ever believe 'love at first sight' again! But again, it's subjective. This is my view on love at first sight.

*cheers*

Yours truly,

Chan Kah Mun

Love at 'First Sight"? :S

As we spoke about love at frist sight in class. My stand on "Love at First Sight" is a definate NO it does not happen.

Alright yes some people do go on first dates and they seem to like the person they meet there. But have anyone ever wondered, how MUCH of a person can you know from a 2-3 hours meeting at a coffee shop?Most likely 5% of the individual?YES!

What I feel those who say they liked the person from love at first sight I would say is they were attracted to the partners appearance at FIRST SIGHT! It's not a bad thing. But LOVE doesnt just pop out of the blues like that! It takes years of getting to know the person only then LOVE comes.

Another matter that have disturbed me alot of times were the fact that when one is in a relationship, why do they use those 3 wonderful words very EASILY? The " I Love You " ?

I've seen many people including the relationships I myself have had. Those words I Love You seems to be misused very often. By a week of meeting the person, you have fallen in LOVE?

My opinion is, it takes many months and YEARS to actually know the person's personality fully!Not weeks and definately not at FIRST SIGHT! =)

However, I would never argue with those who say yes they have loved their partners at first sight. It's their individual perception on it. BUT if they say they LOVE the person within few days of the relationship,NEVER!

Amrit Kaur

Open Up?

Recently a close friend of mine opened up to me..
After 8 years of friendship, i felt that i knew him better in the short 2 hours chat than i have even knew..
I've never knew how he felt all this time and it shocks me..
Have i been so ignorant for this whole time?
The little jokes we use to share doesn't feel the same anymore..
The relationship we had is much stronger than ever..
The trust we have is unbreakable
So, My dear friends.. Open UP!! If i'm doing anything wrong, please tell me.
I apologise if i really did anything bad/wrong to you..
I have no bad intentions to anyone.. I only want friends not enemies nor enemy!
This world is filled with too much hatred and too little love..
Share Your Love!

Ian :)

How to deal with Problems?

As the class spoke about this topic in class. I wouldnt say when anyone goes through a break up they undergo "depression". Depression is like a BIG word to say. Those who go through depression have serious illness like, having sleepless nights or even eating disorders. They do nothing but continuously be in their own world.

Im not saying break up's are easy. They are definately very very painful. Especially if you have loved your partner unconditionally and you get cheated in the end.

Ok, some of us might have been in a relationship for less than a week or maybe no more than 2 weeks. Have we? I have =) Through experience of going through the pain, this definately works!

Get a picture of the guy/girl who has cheated you. If you don't hav a picture it's fine, you could even write his/her name on a piece of paper. Then you know what? BURN IT! sounds crazy?! Crazy is FUN=) TRUST me. BURN IT. While burning it, think of all the painful stuff they have done to you, and you will feel relieved!

This doesnt only apply for a guy girl relationship. Even if a friend has done something really bad like maybe when you self-disclosed to him/her and they spread it out to everyone. DO THIS. Same thoughts while doing it. You will feel much better after doing so.

It's just a way of dealing with troubles in life. I do it =)


Amrit Kaur

Human Mind Is So Complicated.

People do things that turns out regretting in the end.
Why people why?
Well have YOU done something that you regretted in the end?
I have.
Sometimes, things that we do, which we all think that it would be for a better sake might turn out horribly wrong.
Don't regret our actions becuz what's done is done...
What's the point regretting right?
Move on with life.. In the end, we all have to make a decision..

Other than that, misunderstandings causes alot.. I mean alot of conflict....
These few days so many misunderstandings have been going on in my life...
Somestimes, I just wish that I could tell some people what I really feel and judge me after that..


-Aiden Yau Ga Weng- ^^