Self Esteem~

Let's get started with the most basic question :

"What is Self-Esteem?"

Self-Esteem is is how we feel about ourselves. Self-esteem is also known as self-respect, self-liking, self-confidence, self-worth and the list goes on and on. In short, self-esteem has to do with how we believe others calue us and how competent we believe ourselves to be in managing our lives ( Roberts, 2002 )


The Effects of Positive Self-Esteem

Nevertheless, self-esteem is important in everyone's life. When we have positive self-esteem, we will feel extremely happy and joyful. We, too will enter a new situation with optimism and will not be pulled back from any situations. Besides that, we will be able to list out constructive goals that we would wish to accomplish in our lives and we'll be proud of ourselves when we managed to accomplish them. We, definitely will not even be bothered by those negative thoughts and worries that appear every single minute. Moreover, we will always be enthusiastic to learn new things and to gain new knowledge. If we run into difficulties, we will not give up easily after one or 2 tries. If what we have done results in negative situations, we will never tell ourselves that " I'm so freaking useless" , instead we'll simply '' go back to the drawing board".

The Effects of Negative Self-Esteem

When our self-esteem is low, we tend to feel depressed, hopeless, left out and inferior towards others easily. We will exaggerate the lowness of our abilities and believe that we're worthless to others. Besides that, we tend to minimize the compliments we received to something worthless. For instance, " It's really nothing big at all." We will feel reluctant to enter new situations and will think that " I can't do this thing....." Whenever we felt that we're unable to cope up with the surroundings, we tend to reject other people's offer as we felt defensive towards their kindness. Lastly, people with low self-esteem tend to blame others for their wrongs in their lives.

The Author,
Yin Jun